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Breast Cancer
- By Johnny B.
- Published 10/12/2008
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When dealing with breast cancer, it takes a lot of courage for a woman to reclaim her femininity and jump back into the dating scene. Breast cancer is a difficult topic to first bring up with a potential Mr. Right, so read on for suggestions on how and when to share this part of yourself with someone else.
If you have breast cancer
Ensure you’re ready to date. A woman’s mind and body can take a hit after breast cancer and its treatments, so be sure you’re truly ready to face the ups and downs of the dating world.
Be upfront. It’s normal to be nervous and want to refrain from telling someone new about your breast cancer. However, it’s best to get it done and get his reaction straight away rather than put it off until later. It may make you feel better, but it’s unfair to him to be told on the sixth date.
Be prepared for a negative reaction. Even if you’ve accepted your breast cancer, some men you come across may freak out. Don’t get despondent; they’re just not prepared to face this head-on, and you’ll eventually find someone who will see that you are more than just your breast cancer.
Inform him. If you’ve met a stand-up guy who is willing to stick around, share your breast cancer with him. Take him to a breast cancer events or fundraiser, answer any questions he may have. Also, be sure to inform him what your treatments entail and prepare him for what’s to come.
If you’ve survived breast cancer
You may be one of the many breast cancer survivors who have undergone surgery, be it a mastectomy or a lumpectomy. If you’re young, you’re most likely willing and ready to engage in a sexual relationship; but the removal of one’s breasts can affect your self-esteem, as well as have you wonder how a sexual partner will look at you.
Love your scars before he does. For someone else to embrace your body, you need to love and accept the body you have first. If you show the same acceptance of your scars and how your body looks, he’ll know to accept it and not be afraid of it.
Show him. Be sure to let your new guy know if you’ve had a mastectomy or lumpectomy—ideally not by whipping off your top as you hit the sheets! Talk to him about it, prepare him for it; when you’re comfortable enough, let him have a feel or even a peek. Doing this in steps will make the big reveal all the more easier.
Wear flattering lingerie. If you’re not quite comfortable yet, wear underwear that can provide some cover-up during those insecure moments and make you look and feel sexy. Look for stores that specialize in post-mastectomy lingerie, like Linea Intima and Simply Lovely Lingerie.
If you have breast cancer
Ensure you’re ready to date. A woman’s mind and body can take a hit after breast cancer and its treatments, so be sure you’re truly ready to face the ups and downs of the dating world.
Don’t bring it up on the first date. First dates can be nerve-wracking; even more so if you’re battling breast cancer and are wondering how to broach the subject. For now, don’t bring it up; get to know him and talk about work, interests, travel, family, anything. You’ll get a feel of what kind of man he is and if you’ve both committed to a second date, it’s something you may want to bring up next time.
Be upfront. It’s normal to be nervous and want to refrain from telling someone new about your breast cancer. However, it’s best to get it done and get his reaction straight away rather than put it off until later. It may make you feel better, but it’s unfair to him to be told on the sixth date.
Be prepared for a negative reaction. Even if you’ve accepted your breast cancer, some men you come across may freak out. Don’t get despondent; they’re just not prepared to face this head-on, and you’ll eventually find someone who will see that you are more than just your breast cancer.
Inform him. If you’ve met a stand-up guy who is willing to stick around, share your breast cancer with him. Take him to a breast cancer events or fundraiser, answer any questions he may have. Also, be sure to inform him what your treatments entail and prepare him for what’s to come.
If you’ve survived breast cancer
You may be one of the many breast cancer survivors who have undergone surgery, be it a mastectomy or a lumpectomy. If you’re young, you’re most likely willing and ready to engage in a sexual relationship; but the removal of one’s breasts can affect your self-esteem, as well as have you wonder how a sexual partner will look at you.
Love your scars before he does. For someone else to embrace your body, you need to love and accept the body you have first. If you show the same acceptance of your scars and how your body looks, he’ll know to accept it and not be afraid of it.
Show him. Be sure to let your new guy know if you’ve had a mastectomy or lumpectomy—ideally not by whipping off your top as you hit the sheets! Talk to him about it, prepare him for it; when you’re comfortable enough, let him have a feel or even a peek. Doing this in steps will make the big reveal all the more easier.
Wear flattering lingerie. If you’re not quite comfortable yet, wear underwear that can provide some cover-up during those insecure moments and make you look and feel sexy. Look for stores that specialize in post-mastectomy lingerie, like Linea Intima and Simply Lovely Lingerie.